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How To Use Motivation When Constructively Criticizing Someone

Nobody likes to be criticized unless it is for a constructive reason.  Sometimes even that makes the person being criticized want to lash back at the person doing the constructive criticizing! Of course those types of people are the ones who don’t like to be told what to do and how to do it anyway.

I know for me personally, I have been criticized harshly in the past and I have experienced some well thought out constructive criticism.  What is my preference? The well thought out constructive criticism.  To be CONSTRUCTIVELY criticized by an individual who cares about me works well.  It helps and motivates me to want to do better.

Throughout my working career I have learned that a person can actually motivate someone to do better by the use of constructive criticism.  If your words are too harsh when expressing your thoughts of how a person can improve, believe me, you might be in for a word fight…or in some cases, a fist fight.  Here are some suggestions on how to actually use motivation when constructively criticizing someone:

See Yourself As A Teacher Or A Coach

Teachers and coaches help people, not hinder people, so you must always keep in  mind that you are trying to help the individual whom you are speaking to.

Show That You Care

Always verbally relay the message of caring about that person.  Make sure that they know this from the beginning of the conversation.  This is not a “what’s in it for you” scenario, but a “what’s in it for them” scenario.

Choose The Right Moment To Offer The  Criticism

Make certain that your timing it just right.  Approach them at a time where you know they are relaxed and not upset over something.

Avoid Telling That Person What They Should Or Should Not Do

The word “should” will make you appear rigid and pedantic, which basically boils down to sounding nit picky.  Instead say things such as “here is what you may find easier” or “may I tell you what I’ve learned?” or even, “how about implementing this strategy?” Motivate that person through upbuilding words and encouragement.

Show Them The Benefits

Yes show them! People will realize and feel like you really do care about them when you actually show them what works and how they themselves can benefit from it. Then think of their strengths and verbalize how you know that they can do the things you are suggesting to them because of  their talents, experience, background and/or work ethic.

Be Specific

You do not want to sow seeds of doubt or anxiety when speaking with the person.  Never be vague with the suggestions you are bringing to the table. Remember along with motivating a person into action, you’ll need to be able to set them on the right course. A course that they will want to follow.

If you yourself have any other suggestions on how to use motivation when constructively criticizing someone, feel free to comment below.

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