Why Dating Someone You Meet Online Can Be Dangerous
There are all kinds of dating sites a person can visit online these days. There are even some great stories of people having success with finding a life mate, from those dating sites. Unfortunately there are also stories of heartbreak, disappointments, adultery, fraudulent activity and even murder. Yes dating in this fashion may just put you in some serious danger!
Not Everybody You Meet Online is an Honest Person
Even if you yourself are an honest person, not everyone is like you. Remember that honesty is not the best policy for some unscrupulous people out there. The internet may “look” safe to you as regards to finding a mate online, but you must be very careful about who you choose to deal with. Don’t let those TV commercials fool you. You know, the ones where a certain dating website is being advertised and the couples on there are just so overjoyed with having met their “soul mate.” All that glitters is not gold, trust. The Internet seems to make certain kinds of dishonesty easier to practice and harder to detect. And when it comes to romantic attachments, dishonesty presents some terrible dangers.
The Internet Allows Dishonest People To Hide Who They Really Are
We see many stories about people committing fraud online and I am not just talked about identity theft and credit card information thieves either. I am talking about the thieves of the heart who like to pounce on unsuspecting people with lies and deception. This can be applied to “those who hide their purposes or designs from others, or who conceal their real character and intentions.” How is such dishonesty practiced on the Internet? And what dangers does this present to those who are looking for romance?
There Are Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing Online
Not only can it be dangerous for adults but it can also be dangerous for teens and children alike! There have been too many news reports of adult sexual predators who pretend to be youths as they prowl the Internet seeking to prey on young ones. There are even TV programs where undercover investigators have to pretend to be youths to help catch these unsuspecting creeps. Even though the show is disturbing, pedophiles get put behind bars before they can abuse any more young ones.
Granted, not everyone you meet over the Internet is a dangerous predator. However, there are additional ways in which people “hide what they are.”
Deception and Secrecy – Here Are The Dangers
It is all too common for someone to exaggerate their good traits and minimize their faults. It is also all too common for unhappily married individuals to seek someone for friendship and romance online in secrecy.
Internet dating can be bad because people get deceived. Some people like to upload fake pictures of themselves, lie about their income levels, lie about their sex, lie about marital status, lie about their race, lie about criminal history, lie about their mental health histories, etc. To warn others, many people have reported painful experiences of being misled by people they have dated after meeting them on the internet.
A young man from Ireland named Sean admits: “It’s very easy to pretend to be something you’re not when you’re typing onto a computer screen.” Dishonesty is the worst possible basis for any relationship, especially one that is intended to lead to a lifelong union.
A Virtual Meeting or A Real Life Courtship?
Internet dating may present other dangers. A person can grow so attached to the individual or individuals they meet online, that that relationship can end up being more real than with someone they know or meet offline. In some cases, they may spend more time online with that person or persons, than they spend with the own family and friends, even neglecting their own day to day responsibilities.
There really is no substitute for meeting someone live and in person. I know for me personally, when I met my husband during a gathering of friends, it was great and I wasn’t even looking for or expecting to meet anybody special that night.
Back in 1997, some years before I met my husband, I had personally fallen victim to a dishonest person who although he was married, decided to “fall in love” with me. Did he tell me he was married? Of course not. Did I know? No. Why? Because I had met him in an online chat room. He intentionally hid who he really was from me and 3 months, yes 3 months later after all of the love messages and daily phone calls, he just decided to tell me a lie about how he had to end our relationship. He had to end it because his “ex-girlfriend” came back into his life pregnant with his child and he had to marry her. I found out 3 years later (when he finally told me the truth) that she had been his wife for more than 15 years! Our short 3 month online “courtship” was all based on a lie, I felt like such a fool upon learning the whole truth! Why he took so long to tell me was crazy. What made it even worst is that I was not the only one he was playing games with online.
If You Want To Look For A Mate Online Do Your Research
Don’t let your feelings and emotions get in the way of you getting the real story from a person. You should ask them questions, letting them know that you expect honest answers and you should be upfront and honest about yourself for them.
Don’t fall too quickly! You must be cautious when dealing with people, especially those you meet online. If a person tells you they love you much much too soon, something is usually not quite right. Be wise. If they are in love they should be open with you and if you have to, do some research on that person. Make sure they are who they say they are.
You Can Make Balanced Use Of The Internet
The internet can be a very helpful and resourceful tool if used properly. E-mail and Video Chat are nice ways of staying in touch with your friends and family, especially if they live far away, but nothing is better than face-to-face contact.
When it comes to dating and you are mature enough to do so, always make responsible decisions. If you absolutely want to try using the internet to find a mate online, again, be honest with the other person and expect the same from them. Be balanced, use precautions and make sure of all things. Find out if you are truly compatible with that person, especially when it comes to your interests spiritual goals and values.
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